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Let's Not Comment on Someone's Body

Updated: Jan 2



'Tis the season, we are around family and other people we may not normally interact with. People seem to think that the easiest way to start conversation is through commenting on someone’s body. Even if they perceive it as a positive thing. I’m talking about casual convestations with people.


Why we shouldn’t comment on a body good or bad:

  • Perpetuates that thinner bodies are better

    • thin=health

  • May put pressure on the person to keep their appearance the same

  • Someones changes may be related to medical or mental health issues



Some alternatives to commenting on a body:

  • "It’s good to see you"

  • "I’ve heard about this thing you’re doing, that’s amazing"

  • "How have things been?"

  • "Comment on their personality or energy"


It’s so ingrained in our society that we need to give compliments on women’s body's. We do not.


SO, what do we say when people comment on our bodies and we aren’t comfortable with it?

  • Change the subject completely

  • Say thank you, talk about something you’ve been doing recently that’s exciting you

  • If you’re comfortable with the person/you feel comfortable being forward

    • "I prefer to not hear comments about my body"

    • "Can we please not talk about my body"

    • "Are you open to taking about something else"

  • Pivot the conversation to what your body can do for you


Body neutrality has helped me when it come’s to people commenting on my body. For me the focus of body neutrality is on what my body does for me, and accepting it as is is.




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